Grief and Fear Can Motivate Clarity and Action

Like practically everyone I know, I am in shock. I feel afraid. I feel, like commonly happens with grief, that I could have done more. To me, the very roots of society have been shaken.


Society is built out of social bonds. Of course, fear can be a bond, but only a tenuous one. When the bond is built on opposition, built on hating, it is very unstable. It lasts only as long as you can maintain an enemy and must be constantly re-created. So not only those outside the wall are rejected, inside the wall is always suspect. Since this President-elect used blatant hate and fear to win office, there is great weakness in his administration and also great danger.


When the heart burns with fear and grief, the mind must awaken. It just must. When the earth itself feels like it will break open and weep, stop. Breathe as calmly as possible. What you hear is not the earth speaking. It is the world of your heart in that moment. The earth has a different message, if you can see, hear and feel it. When you feel fear, it could be telling you to turn away. Or it could mean sharpen your observation, get ready to act. That is the message here.


Because society is also built from mental bonds, how you interpret your own messages to yourself, your ideas, your stories, your ways of responding to what others do, as well as what you feel, must be studied and understood. On Facebook this morning there were so many people saying we must come together, share hugs, strategize; feel and think together. This is real. This I say yes to. I think we must find ways for such a yes.


Maybe I was too complacent. Maybe I held back. All that matters now is that I, we, use such energy to think more deeply, to feel others more deeply, feel our mutual need, and act with clarity, caring and commitment. That is the only way I can think of to face the fear engendered by this election.


Thank you for listening.

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  1. Donna

    God bless us all. yes, I am in shock as is much of the world.

    • Yes. I just hope we can help each other, and learn as much as possible from this, without it hurting too much.

  2. Elaine Mansfield

    Exquisite, Ira. I should have read it a few days ago. Wishing you well at your B&N reading today. I know you’ll do a beautiful job. I took a long walk in the woods today–trying to go of anxiety and fear. I’ve craved long hugs from friends, long emails, and little news. May all be well.

    I’ll happily share this on my author page on FB this week since it focuses on grief. It’s an essential perspective for all kinds of grief. This week I felt plunged into that familiar place–both deeply quiet and easily agitated.

    • Thank you for your supportive comments and sharing. Today’s talk and discussion went very well. A very engaged audience, like the last book talk. A walk in the woods is needed this week. Nothing like a quiet discussion with a few trees to straighten out the mind.

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